Being friends after a relationship is possible but its always good to make sure youre doing it for the right reasons and to keep checking in with yourself that your feelings are still platonic and only you can know that.
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Few are as polarizing as whether or not you should. Anecdotal evidence feeds arguments on both sides — but what do the experts say?
When to cut ties with an ex Under no circumstances should a relationship that was abusive, manipulative or transition into a friendship, Sussman says.
That may be especially true if you were never friends before you dated, Sussman says. After of about a year and a half, Brett stayed friends with him — and fell into an on-again, off-again relationship that lasted for more than five years.
The lines are murkier for couples without children, but Sussman says those who dated when they were young, were friends first, dated casually or were together only for a short time are good candidates for friendship. Robin Zabiegalski, a 31-year-old writer who lives in Vermont, is a notable counterexample.
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The research supports that notion. Studies suggest that couples who remain in contact for the same reasons — whether those are — are more likely to have successful friendships, while staying in touch is a Can lovers still be friends? of negative outcomes.
How to stay friendly with an ex If you decide to try a friendship with an ex, Sussman suggests taking a break first. A lot of insight can come with time and space apart.